If you\u2019re living with an addict, you probably have more than a few horror stories to share. Your life has undoubtedly been filled with stress and uncertainty as you watch someone you love spiral into addiction. Living with an alcoholic or drug addict can seem hopeless. Many times, people come out on the other side of addiction into a better, more fulfilling life. Until that time comes, here are some tips for living with an addict as well as some hard truths you need to face. How to Live With an Addict Living with an alcoholic or drug addict is tricky. Sometimes what you think is helpful behavior is actually keeping them stuck in their addiction. Here are some tips for living with an alcoholic or drug addict: Stop Enabling Enabling is one of the most common mistakes people living with addicts make. Most loved ones of addicts don\u2019t even realize they\u2019re doing it. Enabling an addict means you\u2019re keeping your loved one in the cycle of addiction by not letting them suffer the consequences of their behaviors. It\u2019s easy to confuse enabling with caring. Enabling may come in the form of caretaker, excuse-maker and fixer. It can feel like you\u2019re helping your loved one, but if they never experience the consequences of their actions, what motivation do they have to get better? Set Healthy Boundaries A way to stop enabling an addicted person is by setting healthy boundaries. Healthy boundaries are good for both you and your loved one. Boundaries say, \u201cI love you, but I won\u2019t aid in your addiction.\u201d Healthy boundaries often include: \tNot making excuses for your addicted loved one to friends and family when they mess up \tNot allowing your loved one to be in the house or attend family gatherings if they\u2019re drunk \tStop bailing them out if they get into legal or financial trouble \tNot letting addict behavior interfere with your self-care, social activities, job, and other responsibilities Remember the Needs of Your Family Alcoholism and drug addiction touches the lives of everyone in its path. Their problem affects their partner, children, siblings, parents, and other loved ones. If you\u2019re living with an addict that\u2019s also your partner, you need to consider other family members. Take Care of Yourself Living with an alcoholic or drug addict drains you physically and emotionally. Taking care of yourself is critical to your health. It\u2019s also a way of empowering yourself by minimizing the effect your loved one\u2019s addiction has on you. Some ways you can take care of yourself include: \tSeeing a mental health counselor \tAttending Al-Anon, an AA meeting for families and friends of alcoholics \tPracticing self-care like exercise and mindfulness \tTaking part in activities you enjoy \tSpending time with friends and family whose company you enjoy Effects of Living with an Addict Taking care of yourself is probably the most important thing about living with an alcoholic or drug addict. Living with an addicted loved one isn\u2019t just frustrating, it can cause health issues for you. Your life is consumed by their problems. You may neglect self-care. You worry constantly. Then, you clean up when they mess up. Research shows loved ones of alcoholics are at risk for: \tTrauma \tMisplaced anger toward others \tDepression \tAnxiety \tInsomnia \tPoor self-care \tSubstance abuse If you have children, they\u2019re also at risk for problems from living with an alcoholic. A review of research found that children of alcoholics are at risk for: \tBehavior problems \tRelationship issues \tDrug and alcohol abuse \tSuicidal thoughts \tMental health issues like depression and anxiety 5 Hard Truths of Living with an Addict Living with an addict isn\u2019t easy and leaving them isn\u2019t any easier. If you\u2019ve decided to stay with an addicted person, especially if they\u2019re your partner, here are some hart truths you\u2019ll need to accept until they get help. #1 Others may not want you and your partner around. It won\u2019t take friends and family members long to figure out that your partner has an addiction. In fact, you might still be in denial long after they\u2019ve reached that conclusion. Once it becomes obvious, you can expect your social invitations to decline as others start to avoid both of you. What\u2019s happening isn\u2019t your fault but you\u2019ll find yourself caught in the crossfire of the relationships your loved one has damaged. Living with an addict often means feeling isolated a lot of the time. #2 Your partner won\u2019t be responsible or reliable. When you\u2019re living with an addicted person, you should expect to be let down over and over again. They\u2019ll break promises, forget important dates and miss events with family and friends. No matter how many times your partner says they\u2019re sorry, they\u2019ll continue abusing your trust. Addiction breeds irresponsible behavior. Even the best intentions won\u2019t make a difference if the addict or alcoholic continues to abuse substances. #3 Your partner won\u2019t be honest. Addicts deny the truth about their substance abuse problem to themselves and to everyone else. They also won\u2019t tell you the truth about where they\u2019ve been, what they\u2019ve been doing or who they\u2019ve been doing it with. They won\u2019t be honest about where your money is going, why the car got dinged up or why they were late getting home. Most disturbing of all, they will repeatedly lie about their intentions to get clean and sober. Drugs and alcohol are their priority. They\u2019ll tell you what you want to hear to get you off their back. #4 You can\u2019t make them change. You can offer support, advice, encouragement and unconditional love to the addict in your life. You can issue deadlines or ultimatums. Moreover, you can enlist the help of friends and family to convince them to get help for their drug or alcohol addiction. But no matter how much energy you expend, you can\u2019t do the work for them. While recovery outcomes for people who enter treatment voluntarily tend to be better, many people in drug rehab centers are there because of external factors. These can include legal problems, work problems and ultimatums from loved ones. Sometimes people find internal motivation to get better once they\u2019ve sobered up and are immersed in recovery activities in drug rehab. Regardless, only the person with the addiction can choose to stop alcohol or drug abuse. Until they\u2019re ready to make that commitment, nothing you do will have the impact you hope for or expect. #5 You may need to leave. When you\u2019re living with an addict, you can only hope, pray and put your needs aside for so long. If your partner stubbornly refuses to seek help or is in and out of addiction treatment centers with no intention of staying sober, there may come a time when you\u2019ll have no choice but to leave. This is especially true if there are children involved. Some drug addicts need to hit rock bottom before they\u2019re finally ready to admit the truth. That doesn\u2019t mean you need to hit rock bottom with them. You deserve better. If you decide to leave before things go that far, you\u2019re justified in doing so. Leaving an alcoholic or drug addict isn\u2019t easy. Sometimes it\u2019s for the best. What You Should Know About Addiction Addiction is a disease of the brain. In a way, it has hijacked your loved one\u2019s brain. It\u2019s making the decisions for them. Substance abuse changes the structure and chemical balance in the brain. This makes your brain think it needs drugs and alcohol to function. It will do whatever it takes to get them because its job is to help you survive. Substance abusers will often lie, cheat, steal, miss work and ruin relationships. Their life centers around the drugs and alcohol they need for \u201csurvival.\u201d When you understand this, it can help you understand why the addict is the way they are. People struggling with addiction may also have mental health disorders that contribute to substance abuse. They may use drugs and alcohol as a way to cope with symptoms of depression or anxiety. Many times they\u2019re unaware that this is what they\u2019re trying to achieve. The underlying mental health disorders need to be addressed to help them get sober. This doesn\u2019t excuse the way the addict is ruining both of your lives. It doesn\u2019t excuse the way they treat you and others. It may help you unload some of the blame you\u2019re putting on them (and yourself). Addiction is a chronic disease that often needs medical attention and behavioral therapy before it improves. There\u2019s only so much you can do if your partner doesn\u2019t want help. Living with an addict can be a daily battle. It can take over your life. It can isolate you from friends and family. Additionally, it can ruin relationships and finances, leaving you feeling helpless and depleted. Get Treatment Today Living with an addict is difficult. However, addiction recovery is possible with hard work and the right treatment. Only your addicted partner can put in the work to get better for themselves and you. We offer a variety of addiction treatment programs, including: \tAlcohol addiction \tHeroin addiction \tCocaine addiction \tMeth addiction \tBenzo addiction To learn more about living with an addict, call today.