When you know someone who\u2019s attempting to overcome a drug problem, naturally you want to offer your support. In fact, there are questions to ask a recovering drug addict that can help open a productive dialogue.\u00a0 But there are also questions you should not ask a recovering drug addict, if you seriously want to contribute to their healing. Here are some of the questions you should not ask a recovering addict: \u201cI never thought you were that bad. Are you sure you\u2019re really an addict?\u201d You might think this will make the person you\u2019re talking to feel better, but you\u2019ll do them no favors if you encourage them by minimizing the problem. It can take a long time for a drug addict to break through the walls of denial they erect, and you shouldn\u2019t say anything that might make them have second thoughts about the depth of their drug problem. \u201cWe all knew you had a drug problem. Why didn\u2019t you quit sooner?\u201d It\u2019s amazing, but some people actually think guilt can be an effective motivator. In fact trying to shame someone into staying on the straight and narrow can only backfire. Negative self-judgments damage self-esteem, and people with a poor self-image have a hard time generating the confidence and energy necessary to sustain positive change. \u201cIt\u2019s great that you\u2019re off drugs. Would you like to have a drink to celebrate?\u201d Recovering drug addicts must avoid all intoxicating substances, not just the ones they\u2019re addicted to. This includes alcohol, which many people seem to believe is in a special category separate from illicit drugs. From the standpoint of someone with a substance abuse problem, that is both a false and a dangerous assumption. \u201cWe\u2019re all going to a party tomorrow night. Will you come along and be the designated driver?\u201d People in recovery shouldn\u2019t be encouraged to attend events where the alcohol will be flowing freely, even if their problem isn\u2019t specifically alcohol-related. Recovery is an ongoing process and drug addicts can remain fragile and vulnerable for a long time, regardless of how successful their rehab seems to have been. If they give in to temptation and have just one drink, their chances of relapsing back into drug use will be considerably heightened. \u201cHave you been going to your Narcotics Anonymous (or similar 12-step group) meetings? What\u2019s that like?\u201d If a recovering drug addict brings up this topic on their own, it\u2019s a sign they\u2019re ready and prepared to speak about their process of healing and recovery. But there\u2019s a reason why such groups are called \u201canonymous.\u201d What goes on at NA meetings is private and personal and no one who participates should be pushed into revealing more than they\u2019d like. \u201cHow are you feeling? Are you having cravings? Have you been tempted to use drugs today?\u201d There are good questions to ask a recovering drug addict, and then there are queries like these. Recovering addicts don\u2019t need constant reminders of how difficult their struggle is. They already know it, and they don\u2019t want people obsessing over their addiction to the exclusion of everything else. More than anything they\u2019re trying to move on with their lives, and unless they specifically raise the subject of their drug dependency it\u2019s a good bet they\u2019d prefer to discuss more hopeful and uplifting topics.